Gaslighting: The Impact and Protecting Yourself

Gaslighting is one of the most toxic traits a person can experience in a relationship. The effects are catastrophic and usually happen gradually as long as a person remains in the relationship. Victims of gaslighting suffer in a variety of ways. Some symptoms of gaslighting are:

• Constant self-doubt

• Altered perception of reality

• Lack of trust in your own judgments

• Constant feeling of stress

• Anxiety

• Low self-esteem

• Depression

• Social Isolation and Withdrawal

• Defending or justifying your partners behavior and actions

• Trying to live up to unrealistic expectations by your spouse, boss, or family.

• Feeling like you are lonely and powerless and trapped.

• Constantly apologizing even when it is not warranted.

Being gaslit invalidates your feelings and experience, which takes a toll on your mental health.

Protecting Yourself

There are many things you can do to prevent yourself from being gaslit and to heal yourself if you have been. It is crucial to consider therapy if you feel you have been a victim of gaslighting. Therapy can help you understand your feelings and discern between what is true and what is not. Here are some additional steps you can take to help:

• Understanding that the relationship you are having with your gaslighter is dysfunctional and dangerous for yourself.

• Write down what your gaslighter says to help you discern reality from fiction. It’s also important to write down how that person made you feel.

• Envision what your life might look like without that destructive relationship. This may cause you to feel anxious, but its important to maintain a positive perspective.

• Open up top your friends about what is happening in your life. Ask them to be honest with you and to give you advice if they think you need it.

• See a professional if you are feeling overwhelmed. Many Therapists and Counselors have experience dealing with gaslighting. www.psychologytoday.com can help you find a therapist in your area.